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Reflecting on Loss

Posted by Holly Mejia on

“Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances;
for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”
1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 NIV

Last June my dad died. We were not in touch much of my adult years. When he died, It hurt. I was thinking of what we could have enjoyed together. He refused connection with me due to his schizophrenia, which was diagnosed towards the end of his life. I hadn’t spoken to him in many years. Everything I knew about his rapidly declining health was through my aunt who he allowed in.
As I was grieving about his passing, I still am in many ways, I remembered times at the park with him when I was a little girl and he was in better health. Sweet memories that eventually brought me back to this, “Rejoice always, pray continually.” My thoughts moved on to Jesus. I’m so thankful that I’m walking with Him. The peace He gives me, and the confidence to rely on Him in all circumstances is so powerful to me now. God sure does know how to heal a grieving heart. I think for me, I need to let Him heal mine.
The Resilient Families support group has really helped me process my feelings.

We are a group of individuals who have loved ones with Mental Health Challenges. I couldn’t have a relationship with my father, but I can have one with my mother and daughter who also experience mental health struggles. I didn’t know how to push for a connection with my dad until now that it’s too late. This group has showed me ways to embrace my families challenges and find the joy in the moments I have with them. Also, it has taught me I can have these relationships and care for myself at the same time. Self care is so important when you are caring for others.
If you are caring for someone with mental health issues, we are here for you.


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Mitch Lea Aug 7, 2023 9:03am

What a great blog.